Won’t You Be My Neighbor?


Let’s see how “neighborly” you rate yourself:

  • I know the name of at least 1 person or family who lives next door to me (Y or N)
  • I have been in at least 1 home of one of my neighbors, or had at least 1 neighbor in my home (Y or N)
  • I have at least 1 neighbor’s contact information (Y or N)
  • I’ve given food to or received food from at least 1 neighbor (Y or N)
  • I have a key for one of my neighbor’s homes, or at least 1 neighbor has a key to my place (Y or N)

If you answered “yes” to at least 3 of these questions, you’re on your way to making friends and influencing people! Anything less may mean it’s time to take some initiative (or perhaps move to the country). With all of society’s changes, people still value interacting with their neighbors, whether it takes place next door or within a virtual community. However, when it comes to how they connect with each other, there seems to be less interaction than ever.

This Isn’t Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood Anymore

I grew up on the “family farm” with grandparents who were the best example of being a good neighbor. I spent a lot of time with them growing up. When someone would move into the area (and by area I mean within a 10-15 mile radius because we were country folks), or experience a major life event, or even for no other reason than to just check on others, my grandparents would take fresh vegetables from their garden and eggs from the chicken pen and “pay a visit”. They not only knew who their neighbors were… they were friends and even “family” to many.
Though they don’t always know it, many neighbors share values, including a mutual desire to be more connected and to be friends. Good neighbors are universally regarded as being proactive, helpful and respectful across all generations and cultures in the United States. Often, neighbor relationships are nuanced. For example, although neighbors want privacy, they also want neighbors to help watch out for their property and personal safety.

Survey Says…

A recent Facebook poll we took asked the question “What do you think is the best way to welcome a new neighbor to your neighborhood?”. Here are a few of our friends’ responses:
  • Stop by with some goodies, introduce yourself, & leave your contact info with them
  • Provide a snack bag & drinks for them while they’re moving in
  • Organize a group gift from several of the immediate neighbors
  • Provide a list of your “favorites”: restaurants, doctors, dentists, grocery stores, etc.
The key is to take initiative. There’s no need to wait for the perfect timing or the perfect gift. Show you care by just showing up.
The Tomlin Team typically writes handwritten notes to the surrounding neighbors of a person or family whom we’ve helped buy their home. We’ve even hosted Housewarming Parties for some of our clients and asked them to invite their neighbors so that they can get to know one another. We want to help build a sense of community among neighbors.
You may think you have little in common with some of your neighbors, but the truth is most neighbors share some very important values like helpfulness, respect, trust and safety. Let’s unite our neighborhoods around these important commonalities and build even stronger connections.
  If you would like for The Tomlin Team to help you find a new home where you can build connections and community, give us a shout.   the-tomlin-team-group-picture-2  

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